Book Review: Five Love Languages

You may be saying to yourself: "Another book on love? I’ll pass! I’ve read enough on how to fix myself so she will love me; how to look, what to say and do to keep him interested, and that sexual toys save marriages.” You have tried some of the 25 ways to impress your lover, and the 50 steps to marital bliss, at least the ones that made sense to you, with limited success.

In this international best seller, Dr. Chapman introduces us to the five specific languages of love that people "speak”; that is, how we express and experience love. As individuals, we express love in different ways. What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your spouse. Learning your own love language, and importantly, the language of your spouse, is the key to understanding each other’s unique needs. You both may be speaking the language of love, but with different dialects.

Language #1 Quality Time:

He sends you flowers when what you really want is for him to spend some time with you, listen to you, and share his day with you.

Language #2 Words of Affirmation:

She works full time, cooks great meals, is "superwoman” but you want her to tell you how much she appreciates you and what you do.

Language #3 Gifts:

He loads the dishwasher, helps put the kids to bed, cooks on weekends, and even does his own laundry, but you know that he loves you if he surprises you with a gift. You want a tangible token of his love.

Language #4 Acts of Service:

"He’s always telling me how much he loves me, how pretty I am, and how glad he is that he married me, but I need him to do some things for me. I’m exhausted, and need more consideration shown here!”

Language #5 Physical Touch

She’s usually feverishly preparing a fancy dinner when he gets home; hasn’t time to hug him at the door, and maybe affectionately tousle his hair. He’d rather eat beans, and have her give him some lovin’.

Each language is described in detail, with case histories of couples that learned how to speak each others love language. A wonderful thing is that one spouse can take the first steps; learning what makes the other feel loved, and acting on it. To say that the re-action can be gratifying is an understatement.

Dr. Chapman writes from a Christian perspective, but he has written this book for everyone to reap the benefits of his simple, often humorous, loving and healing teachings.

For a free on-line study guide designed to take the concepts from the book and learn how to apply them in a practical way, visit .

Wendy Grant is a long time student of metaphysics. She conducts memorial tributes and can be reached through under Ceremonies – memorials or (250) 850-1154.