Be honest. Have you ever felt that it was easier to love another person than to love yourself? Don’t we all at some point, to some degree? It saddens me. How did this happen? Why aren’t we taught to love ourselves? At what point did we receive and continue to reinforce the message that to […]
Category Archives: MINDFUL LIVING
Change of Pace – Importance of Rituals
What does Valentine’s Day, dating, dinner and a movie, marriage and couples have in common? Rituals. A ritual is defined as ‘any method of doing something in which the details are always faithfully repeated.’ Rituals give life meaning and help us celebrate our lives. They offer security, stability and routine and a sense of calmness […]
Is there a roadmap to true intimacy?
I hear time and time again from people that they are not experiencing real intimacy in their relationships. Sex? Yes. True intimacy? No. They long for a soul connection, a deep tender love, a satisfying fulfilling sexual love. In a previous column I wrote about the "communion spiral." I suggested we are hardwired to seek […]
Communication Spiral
Why has my partner become like a stranger? On the surface, a partner can "become a stranger" for a lot of reasons. But underneath, it often comes down to a chronic communication problem. The upward spiral to communion To understand how a relationship develops, visualize a circle. One third of the circumference is labeled "communication," […]
Compassionate Chocolate
Hot chocolate to warm the body, sweet deserts at parties, or a box of chocolates to give to a friend. The holiday season is a great excuse for everyone to indulge his or her sweet tooth. Most people can name more kinds of chocolate treats than they can birds and trees in their backyards. This […]