In today’s society it is important to look for ways to add more romance into our lives. Financial worries, pandemic scares and unemployment fears can dampen our spirits as well as our romantic hearts. Loving, caring relationships can help to reduce stress and nourish our body, mind and soul. We can also be good role models for our children who are witnesses to the health of our relationships.
What is romance? I do not recall learning much about romance in school. Sex education was an awkward class for most of us guys and we covered up our embarrassment with bad jokes and silly one-liners. We may have learned about safe sex, but we missed the important lessons on romance. Unfortunately, my marriage license did not come with a romance manual either, so I had a lot to learn by trial and error. I was a motivated student though, because I wanted to please my wife and be that “romantic guy”.
I acknowledge that a man’s perspective on romance is probably vastly different than a woman’s; however, romance is equally important for both sexes:
Ladies, please be patient with us. Understand that we want to be more romantic, but most of us guys were never taught how to express our romantic feelings. Encourage us to be romantic, talk to us about what romance means to you and help us become better lovers and partners.
Guys, we need to shift our focus from quantity to quality when it comes to sex and recognize that romance is an essential part of a loving relationship. Romance starts with good communication and continues with kindness and compassion. We do not have to wait until February 14 to don our romantic capes. We can be more creative and spontaneous and surprise our partners with loving treats any night of the week. Cupid might suggest writing a love note, cooking her favorite dinner, or offering her a nice massage (without expectations).
Would you like to experience more fun, love and intimacy in your relationship? If you answered yes, then what are you waiting for? This is an important time to celebrate our relationships with more romance. Couples are under a lot of stress these days and unfortunately, the odds are against us. Flip a coin. In our busy society, relationships have a 50/50 chance of surviving. It is time to slow down and focus our energy on what is really important – our relationships. Don’t wait for your partner to initiate the romance because you might be waiting a long time. The good news is that we usually get back what we give, so trust that you will be rewarded for your efforts. This summer plan some date nights, or a romantic weekend get-away and have some fun together.
Bobby J. O’Neal is the creator of the Syncrohearts Relationship Game.