"Those who are at war with others are not at peace with themselves.”
– William Hazlett
It’s a rainy, dark, Friday afternoon and you’re commuting home when you’re suddenly cut off on the highway by a big, blue truck. The driver, clearly in his own world, nearly hits your car and you swerve to avoid a collision.
Suddenly, adrenalin courses through your veins – you feel pressure in your head and intense anger building.
"What an idiot,” you yell. Without much thought, you put the pedal to the metal to catch up to this driver to ‘give him a bit of his own medicine.’
Who hasn’t felt anger at one point or another? Even easy-going, confident, relaxed people can get angry and ‘lose it.’
When you feel like you’re losing control, you need to consider peace and harmony; this is the answer to making your life and the lives of others more manageable. This sounds great on paper, but to be brutally honest, it’s not so easy in real life.
How can you have peace when your credit cards are maxed out, your mother is seriously ill, you despise your job, you want to change careers, your teenagers drive you crazy and people cut you off on the highway?
The dictionary defines peace as a state of harmony, the absence of hostility. It can also reflect the relationship between any parties characterized by justice, goodwill and respect.
Harmony is the agreement in feeling or opinion. It also is the result of peace being practiced.
How do you create peace and harmony when your life is chaotic? It’s not easy but you can start feeling better when you follow the following five steps:
1. Slow Down: It’s a challenge to feel peaceful when you’re racing around in a state of overwhelm. Just by slowing down your thoughts and actions, you can avoid saying and doing things that may cause tension and trouble.
2. Peace starts from within: Your thoughts control your actions so if you think about adding more peace and harmony to your life, you may attract more of this.
3. Reconnect with those around you: Drop the Blackberry, Palm-Pilot, cell phone, laptop, iPod, etc. and spend more time paying attention to those around you. When you learn to focus on others, there’ll be less friction as you’ll give them your valuable time and get to know their challenges and interests.
4. Minimize the mult-tasking: You’ll experience more peace when you throttle back on your multi-tasking. Whenever you split your time between one or more activities, you’re not really paying attention and something gets lost in the shuffle.
5. Get rid of the clutter: If you want to feel at peace, start by de-cluttering your home and office. You can’t feel at peace or have harmony in a room that’s overflowing with loose papers, a dirty kitchen, half painted rooms and too many projects ‘on the go.’ When you live and work in a clean, organized space, peace and harmony will come easier to you.
Navigating in today’s busy, chaotic world isn’t easy but adding a little peace and harmony can soften the edges in your life.