The “Drop” Principle: Free Fall With No Parachute
How to Stop Doing Things That You Hate to Do
“How does one become a butterfly?”
“You must want to fly so much you are willing to give up being a caterpillar”, writes Trina Paulus, in her book, Hope For the Flowers.
Do you tend to stay as a “caterpillar” until life circumstances force you out of your cocoon? Do you prefer to stay within the comfort of the familiar, rather than listen to the inner voice that says, Stop doing that! Do this instead! If so, fear is holding you in place, preventing you from listening.
In this article we explore the “Drop Principle”: One of 3 keys to spending the majority of your time in your genius zone. The three “D” keys suggest that any area of life that isn’t your “genius zone”, would be best either dropped entirely, delegated, or developed into an area of genius.
The Drop Principle is simple: Stop doing things that you don’t like doing. You have the choice, right now, to stop spending your time in ways that drain you.
The Drop is the most profound and scary of the 3 D’s. But it is often our greatest fears that hold deep within them our magnificence. Like a treasure chest waiting to be claimed, that magnificence awaits at the darkest corner of the fear. This same fear chains our brilliant genius potential to the desks of excellence and the grocery aisles of surviving.
There is a field beyond survival. A field of contribution. A field of creativity. A field that longs to be tilled by your care and attention; the kind of care that only you, with your lifetime of unique experiences can give. And the choices you make on a daily basis of how to spend your time and energy may be keeping you from tilling the fields of your potential, leaving them fallow.
Before I took the leap to coaching full time, I was juggling a retail job and trying to start my coaching business. Even though I was spending much of my time in my competence and incompetence zones (doing things I either sucked at or didn’t enjoy), my retail job was serving me well. I enhanced my wardrobe, built an amazing network and paid the bills. But eventually, my inner voice clearly indicated that it was time to move on. Drop was the next step, and my fear was strong.
Beyond fear for my survival, was a deeper fear. I was actually afraid of having lots of time and space on my hands. If I wasn’t buzzing around juggling a full time job, relationship and my own business, what would I do with myself? The fear was also a reflection of my relationship with myself and the void of the unknown. But, the moment I embraced this wide open space and stepped into it with willingness, my business began to grow with a life of it’s own.
What are you currently devoting your precious energy and time to within your zones of excellence, competence or incompetence? What can’t be delegated? Obviously, I couldn’t delegate my retail job to someone else without quitting. What could you not possibly develop for lack of love? How are you keeping yourself a caterpillar?
It’s time for you to take the opportunity to face your fears about dropping things, and look at how you might do so. The moment that you decide to make a change, the universe will rearrange itself to accommodate your new wings.
Karen McMullen guides professional women from burn-out to accessing their innate brilliance. She lives on Vancouver Island.